What a weekend. I always feel that my life is feast or famine and this weekend was no exception. My Aunt Darlene past away last Sunday and the funeral was this past Saturday. My sister Debbie's sister in law got married and she was in charge of the cake and Millie (other sister) in charge of the pictures so they had to do the wedding thing and the rest of us headed south to the Funeral. So here are the stories of this plus mothers day.
A Wedding. . . .
Well I didn't have much to do with the wedding but did make a quick drive by on my way to the funeral to drop off my camera to Millie ( something that made me extra late but I did because I love you Millie :) )and the pictures did turn out FABULOUS and the cake AMAZING especially since it was the first time Debbie had ever done a decorated cake let alone a wedding cake WOW deb. I will try and get a picture and post it. That is the extent of wedding for us congratulations Michelle and Frank!!! Good luck!
A Funeral (A tribute? to my Aunt)
I knew that I was headed to this funeral all week but I think there was enough things to do I kept it fairly distant in my mind (I am sorry that not everyone effected by this loss could have done the same thing) So come Saturday and the business of the morning I made it there before reality had really sunk in. Which ended up being to my detriment I never really recovered from the reality of it all day.
My Aunt Darlene (although I am sorry to say I have not seen near enough of her or her family in recent years) however was a major influence in my growing up. She was in fact more than an aunt, truly a second mom. I spent countless hours of my childhood around her kitchen table eating amazing food and talking with everyone, you would find her mostly working, fixing food and getting you what she thought you might need. Countless hours with her kids were spent in the barn playing house, walking the field to the tramp (trying hard not to step on the hay plants), in the hay making huts and snuggled up in the t.v. room watching countless movies (I mean countless because I think they had every movie there ever was or at least as a kid it seemed that way. It would take us a half an hour just to decide what to watch. One of the most memorable time was when we watched "Watcher in the woods" I don't think I could have been more scared if the T.V. was planted right in the middle of the woods (after all in my mind small, farm town it might as well have been) we heard every noise made in the world that night and jumped at each one GOOD TIMES!! We also spent many Easter's at there farm with baskets that covered the old farm table and rolling eggs down the roof of the sheds.
The Funeral was so good. She had seven kids six of them boys one Girl and they are all too young to be up there conducting a funeral. My heart truly broke as I watched them all , my brothers and sisters having to go through this experience so soon and lets face it at all. I can't describe the pain that I felt for myself in loosing someone so dear to me but mostly for them and my uncle and Sally who I am sure relied on her mother as much as I do mine in the raising of her own kids and the advice and wisdom only your mom can provide. They all gave beautiful talks of there mom and her wonderful talents and abilities. I laughed when they talked of her many quotes that she had placed around her house held up by contact paper to mirrors, cupboards, refrigerators and anyplace she or her kids (and everyone else who was fortunate to frequent her home which was many) might look to remind them (us) of who we are and who we should become. That was what was important to her. Not material things but family and home. She was a home body and loved being home she loved you to come to her house but wasn't exactly comfortable being where someone else had to serve her. In the last weeks of her life the kids got a wonderful opportunity to serve her and stay at her side and they truly never left her side in the four weeks or so that she was in the hospital. I was so impressed with there dedication both her kids and her kids in law it truly showed there love for this sweet small firecracker of a woman. I loved her so and I love her family dearly and find myself so sad that we get so busy in life that we don't stay as close to those people who mean so much to us. I want all of my cousin's and my Uncle to know I love them dearly and am thinking of them always and we really need to get together more often for happier occasions.
I remember many a hunting season walking out to the picnic table lined (I mean lined she had six boys and a husband remember) with dead dear heads crusty blood and tongues hanging out and all I have to say is a woman that can not only put up with that but be proud of it and help in the cleaning of them and then cooks it up beautifully is a woman leaps and bounds ahead of the rest of us (ok maybe just me) in courage, patience, understanding, kindness, strength, perseverance I could go on and on.
I love you Aunt Darlene you will truly be missed in my life.
Mother's Day!
I am the primary chorister in my ward these days and so mothers day is more stress than relief. We did a whole program so we had to run back from the funeral and get to church early on Sunday morning to practice and get the kids ready. they did a fabulous job we had a poem about mom's and flowers that the kids took turns reciting parts of . Gavin had a part that read "here is a strong snap dragon as big and brave as dad" he had it memorized (with actions because I was trying to get him to remember the order of strong, big, and brave) by the time we got back from the funeral but froze up a little in sacrament meeting however he said it clearly and did great. The kids then sang "I often go walking" and "love is spoken here" they did great I am so amazed at how well they learn these songs and can sing them with only the 15 minutes of singing time we have each week to do it in. We then had family over to our house for dinner and Grin was awesome did pretty much everything so I could sit around and chat with my fam. Thanks honey you are the BEST!!
I also have found myself with an extra appreciation and love for my mom this mothers day. Watching a little too closely how quickly you can loose someone. I am truly grateful for every moment we have and want to suck up all her knowledge and love. Thanks mom for all you do and for all you have done I am truly who I am today because of you. I love you so so much!
Well there went the weekend gone in a flash. Happy Mother's day to all of you my dear friends you are all truly a great influence in my life and make me want to be a better person. Thank you for your friendship and love.
p.s. I don't have pictures of anything yet but when I get them uploaded I will add them to the post.
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