THE PEARCE FAMILY: Just venting

Just venting

OK so I don't want to sound like the pessimist that I can be on occasion but I am sitting hear with a screaming baby in one room (she suffers because I can't deal with her screaming at me and him at the same time thank goodness she woke up Gavin (I know who would be greatful for that) and they are now playing nicely)and a screaming 6 year old in another. AAAAHHHHH! I know that all of you probably have perfect children who do what their told and don't talk back. Never having temper tantrums or at least you all figure it will be over by age 6 right:) I don't know what I have done wrong with baby number 1 (the poor thing might just be a case of inexperience) but holy cow!! I am sorry no one really has to read this I just needed to channel the frustration somewhere other than at him too much yelling has already come out of my mouth. Something that I am trying so very hard to overcome and chidren like Jax are making it very difficult but to my credit I didn't start yelling the whole first hour untill he came out and hadn't change his attitude at all. Anyway Jaxon is taking piano lessons these days and as long as he sits up and does what he wants thing are fine. But when he gets frustrated you can't teach him how to solve the problem he just completely goes out of his mind. He has been in his room (Ella's room because that is the room with a lock on the outside) for 2 hours now. I have attempted to free him 4 times when his reaction was telling me he wanted to talk further into the room instead of by the door so the he could "make a run for it" the last run had him out on the ledge of the window thinking about jumping and that landed him back in the room for the rest of the night. Well to cool off I am here writing it down. I am sure that one day it will make for a great story to tell to the grandkids but for today I am wondering where I will get the strength to finishing raising him. Is there an early missionary program, a church version of Boot camp. If anyone has heard of any let me know.

5 comments:

The Johnson's said...: I knew Jaxon and Elisabeth were perfect for each other! One our favorite things to fight about is piano... its all fine and good until she get frustrated and then its mom who doesn't have a clue and won't help. Boy we both can yell! I'm proud of you for walking away, or at least shutting him in a room instead keeping up the fight Good Luck!; September 15, 2008 at 6:28:00 PM PDT
Kim said...: I am totally hearing you. I don't know if it's the age or what but Madie too gets so frustrated when she can't figure something out and then she wants to quit and never do it again, it totally annoys me. And as far as loosing your cool I would love to hear of one mother who has not lost her cool with her kids. Good luck, just know that someone else is feeling your pain and having sympathy for you :) !!!; September 15, 2008 at 8:18:00 PM PDT
Jamie said...: Oh Kris, you are not alone! Hang in there. I feel a girls night coming up!; September 15, 2008 at 9:57:00 PM PDT
Kiesha said...: Oh my, I know what you mean. Some days I think that I just can't take anymore and then when poor Brandt gets home from work he meets cranky mom from hades. Hang in there! Luv ya!; September 16, 2008 at 8:29:00 AM PDT
Amanda said...: ummm. I can totally relate. And blogging about it? Genius! We need to remember the good and the not so good! Parenting is TOUGH- one job that is kicking my butt daily! Hang in there... I know you can do it!; September 22, 2008 at 10:01:00 AM PDT

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Half way through the year Grin changed Jobs. He still works for Ken Garff but is now the Used car manager at the Ken Garff Nissan dealership in Riverdale. He is loving the change and has started going to Auction to buy used cars. He is really enjoying this new aspect of the job and has had the opportunity to travel to Pennsylvania a few times to an exclusive Nissan Auction. He is now the 1st counselor in the Elders Corm and loves spending time playing with the kids and teaching them sports and watching as much sports as he can football, Basketball, Baseball, Golf, Hockey, Tennis, Poker, Soccer, (did I miss any) pingpong? if it is on Espn it is worth watching am I right?

As for me. It is pretty much same old same old. Clean house house the house by 10 am the next morning it is dirty again. I have Jaxon in joy school with the neighborhood kids and will be the teacher next month. We "remodeled" the storage room it started out putting some shelves in then I decided that we should put floor in, then we put in a water softener and a new water heater. My quick small project ended up a huge major project and cost way to much money but in the end my glasses come out of the dish washer clean for the first time and I am a little more organized which makes me happy. I got a new calling a few weeks ago and am now the primary chorister yikes never complain about your calling because it could always be worse. Teaching relief society was torture but at least it was only once a month now it is every week. The kids are a true joy though.

Jaxon started the 4th grade this fall and is doing amazing . He is crazy smart and can read at a 6-8th grade reading level. I gave him my old alarm clock after Grinner won me an Ihome and wakes himself up every morning. He gets up, gets dressed, makes his bed, unloads the dishwasher, reads and sometimes gets his piano done. This of course doesn't always happen smoothly but he does pretty good. We went to his SEP conference however and learned that he doesn't turn in his work that he does. He read probably 4 books that quarter at home and he had turned 1 in and it was the one I had read to him. My little brother was like that and almost didn't graduate because of it, what a nightmare we are working hard to rectify that situation as quickly as possible. He is playing on a competetion basketball team (The Davis Starts) and a comp baseball team (The Sox) and has practice or games almost everynight year round but he loves it and is always happy to go and willing to get his other jobs done to do it most of the time it makes for great leverage. He is getting so tall and before I turn around he will be taller than me. I bought size 10 pants for him for school last spring and we got them out for school and they are too short so he has been flooding around for months new pants "Merry Christmas Jaxon". It is so fun to watch him grow and develop into who he is going to be.

Gavin is now 6 years old! He is in Kindergarten and having a September birthday the oldest in his class. He is not "in love" with school but I don't have to convince him to go everyday either. He has discovered video games and I have had to spend a lot of my time monitoring how much time he has spent playing them. He still has middle child syndrome and you would think that I being a middle child myself would do better at making sure that doesn't happen but he still seems to be the kids that doesn't get his homework done and isn't reading as well as he should at no fault to his own but because mom seems to be running around after everything else. His sweet little personality I am afraid is reflecting this and he spends his life looking at the world with "the glass half EMPTY" I actually put a glass in front of him and asked him "Gavin, when you look at this glass what do you see, is it half full or half empty." his response, "half empty". I am praying that it is a 6 year old phase some of his friends moms say the same thing that the girls will cry in a drop of a hat etc. Gavin doesn't cry that quick but he lashes out yelling not nice things at us like "I hate you's" and "your the worste mom in the world" or this is the worst day ever" "stupid idiot" well you get the idea. I don't want this to be negative but want to write how he actually is so that someday we can read back and laugh at this funny faze our sweet Gavin went through right? On the switch side (it is kind of like living with Dr. Jeckle and Mr. Hyde) he is the cutest big brother to Kennedi and to Ella most days to. But he will spend hours playing with Kennedi from the day she was born giving her kisses, and talking to her in baby talk. Now that she is 10 months he pushes her around the house on her push toy and sits around playing with her for hours kissing and loving her. He is truly the best baby sitter and my heart just leaps out of my chest when ever I watch him. He is going to be the best sweatest dad. My sisters little girl has been his favorite for ever now and I kept wondering if we would be as cute with his own sister as he has been with her but he is just as sweet and loving. How so much love and tenderness and hate and rage can come out of the same child in a matter of hours is beyond me but I am learning quickly that he just "feels" more than the rest of us and we will all adjust accordingly and search for ways for him to utilize that gift.

Ella is now 4 years old!! I was so excited when we found out that Ella was going to join our family I really needed a little more estrogen in this house full of boys and boy did we get it. There is no "tom boy" in our little Ella she is Girly Girl to the core. We have a trunk full of dress-ups in her room (however rarely are they "in the trunk") and a Mirror above it were she spends hours admiring herself and "possing" in front of it. Then she keeps asking things like. "Do I look beautiful in this mommy" or "am I more beautiful in this mommy", or "do I look cute or no?" of course the answer is alway "Yes Ella you look beauiful in everything". but she just keeps asking. We are constantly in a state of imaginary play, princesses and mommies, dances, and tea parties. She loves to dress up in moms shoes and wear princess dresses. She is constantly wanting a friend to play with and they will play house and pretend all day. I LOVE IT!!! it is such a great balance from the "lets wrestle, fight, shoot each other etc." we just eat her up. She is in preschool and loves it. she can write her name so well and knows every letter and its sound ( and has known them for over a year) and recognizes them all the time when we read. She loves to pier over my shoulder when Gavin and I read and she hurries and repeats the words after him like she is reading right along and truthfully she does about as good as he does. That's a girl for you right!

Kennedi Rose Pearce came into our family on February 11th 2011. She became the 3rd Hone Grandchild to be born on that day (strange). She has grown so fast and becoming such a fun and integral part of our little family. She has such a sweet demeanor and is always smiling at people. She is really quite the flirt and we spend most of our outings with people standing around talking about how cute she is and telling everyone around them things like. "Have you seen this baby", "come look at this baby", "She is the cutest thing, you have to see this baby", "look at those big blue eyes" While she just smiles and smiles like she is telling them "I know I am cute and you should all notice". It is really quite fun for me and Grin because we reallyh get a say in how they look or act right! She is crawling all over and getting into every thing she is a typical 10m old baby and we wouldn't trade her for the world.